Column: Turning an annoyance into a blessing
I've had the privilege of meeting many superstars in the field of marriage enrichment, and today's guest columnist certainly is in that category. Pam Farrel, along with her husband, Bill, have written more than 30 books, including "Men are Like Waffles, Women are Like Spaghetti." They have also spoken to thousands and thousands of people, offering valuable down-to-earth tips on building and maintaining a healthy marriage. The Four Corners Coalition for Marriage and Family brought them to the Farmington Civic Center a few years ago, and those who attended were greatly pleased.
Pam will come to our area for a women's conference in September. I'll share more details as the event draws closer. In this column, she shares some thoughts on what wives can do to enhance their marriage. This is certainly not to say that is solely the wife's responsibility. We'll address the man's part in a future column.
Both Bill and Pam will be my guests on "TWOgether as ONE," which airs at 6 p.m. Monday on KLJH 107.1FM. We'll likely cover a wide range of marriage-enriching topics. You can also get free relationship articles and other books and resources like Pam's newest "52 Ways to Wow Your Husband" at www.Love-Wise.com.
My husband, Bill, loves his coffee. But along with Bill's love of coffee, he also has a habit that could be very annoying, that is his aversion to get the coffee mugs into the dishwasher. I find coffee cups every place imaginable: in the garage, in the car, in the truck, in the closet, on the sidewalk, on the deck and patio, in the shop, in the office, on the stairwell, in the bathroom — you name it, and I have likely found a coffee cup there. It is a good thing that we are authors and speakers because we love collecting the coffee mugs from all the churches we speak at and all the TV and radio shows we appear on — and we need every one of them! In my new book, "52 Ways to Wow Your Husband," I share how to make this year the best year of your man's live by giving some ideas on loving and living with your guy.
How did I handle the mugs issue? I am not a coffee drinker really. I might drink a non-fat latte but for the most part coffee makes my heart race, and I prefer that only Bill makes my heart skip a beat. Bill says that I am naturally caffeinated by God and it takes Bill drinking three cups of coffee just to keep up with my energy. Bill has an internal homing device that helps him spot a Starbucks green awning.
APPRECIATE THE DIFFERENCE >> Coffee is a part of what makes Bill, well, Bill. One day, as we were preparing to move homes, I was doing that "last load of dishes" and I realized it was composed of all coffee mugs — 47 of them to be exact. It made me smile because years ago, I decided to bless (think and say nice things) to Bill every time I saw one of his empty displaced mugs. Maybe you have heard the saying, "Love covers a multitude of mistakes?" I have embraced the ever-reappearing dirty coffee mug with fond affection because it reminds me of my hard workin' man who requires caffeine to do all the wonderful acts of service that benefit so many, including me.
CELEBRATE THE DIFFERENCE >> For Bill's 50th birthday we celebrated by having Bill select and roast his own brand of coffee. It took one afternoon to visit a coffee farm, select the beans, roast it to perfection and then design the label. I knew I had a winning date as he sat, lingered a moment to savor the aroma of his Farrel Family blend of Mountain Thunder Vienna roast. He took a sip, and I watched a big grin appear on my husband's well caffeinated soul.
INTEGRATE THE DIFFERENCE >> I take note of when Bill's "Farrel Family roast" runs low, as I know a mug of his favorite blend with just a touch a real cream will endear his heart to mine, just like that empty dirty cup does when I discover it in the next unusual place. Praying for Bill when I see a coffee mug, even when I travel and might be away from Bill, has become my life rhythm. Today, take that thing that is driving you crazy about your man and make it a celebration or a date to wow him.
Ron Price is the co-founder and executive director of the Four Corners Coalition for Marriage & Family, a 501(c)3 organization dedicated to strengthening and equipping marriages and families in the Four Corners area. He can be reached at 505-327-7870.